Dancing with the flow!

In any relationship, what binds people together is the way they communicate. A healthy communication keeps relationship alive, it does great deal of help in finding the lost way come back and connects the disconnect.

When you are upset in your relationship – think of accommodating people; spread out your hands to hide people in your arms. Accommodate people; they need your warmth, acceptance and recognition. Your hug would be creating heavenly moments for people. An appreciative hug, an acceptance hug can release you both from the sense of hurt generated by insecurity, anger and frustration. A true hug is limitless, boundless and hence it will make you dance without steps, without a right or wrong. Your dance with your partner communicates you are accepting and you are acceptable. Whenever you have a tussle with people, choose to remain communicative, choose not to get into a silent mode. It is really not the silent mode; it is the worst violent mode.

When you and your partner is going through a tough time, you both do not encourage any advice from any source. You are expecting people to listen to your side of the show and approve it. You are looking for couple of ears that can listen to you without judging you. You express, you have a need to be understood by the others. You are looking for words “Yes, you are right, I understand your point of view ….” Why can’t you extend a “I understand” hug to people around – You are healing the worst wound; a tumorous wound. 

No relationship works on advices, people resist advices, and we end-up thinking they are resisting us. People want to experience the warmth of “We are there for them; They matter us a lot and They are understood”. They want to be secure, they need our assurance in the form of healthy communication that communicates, “I am with you; I am holding you very close to me.”

Many a time instead of becoming ‘nurturing partner’, we turn into complaining partner. What begins as a way of helping the other to improve, for the so-called greater good, soon turns into an unhealthy, unequal relationship. Right values in relationship keep us grow and together, it also helps us to handle storms, tsunami and thunderstorm of any kind and magnitude in any relationship.

-          May everybody be happy. May everybody be free from disease. May everybody have good fortune and blessings. May all discover freedom from sorrow and evil things.