Devadutta, if you want to control your life, it's not possible. That should not be your motive; you must gain a basic understanding of who you are. Our self-image, which is the picture of ourselves that we hold with us, becomes the key to our lives. All our choices, feelings and behavior, and even our abilities, are consistent with this formed picture. 

We literally act out the kind of person that we think that we are. What we need to be aware of is that as long as we hold onto that picture, no amount of willpower, effort, determination or commitment will cause us to be any other way, because we're always going to act like ourselves. To be any other way, we must first look at the cause - the basic pictures that make up our self-image.

Each one of us draw the picture of our own world from our own limited experience and begin to believe that our picture of the world is what the world is all about and this obviously limits our self-growth.