Anugraha Living Values

What defines your worth?  Normally, we define our worth externally, through others' approval’ and ‘acceptance’.  We think, or we have been programmed to define our weight, our hair, our money, our job, our car, our clothes, our house, our mate, or the people we know as our worth.  This attitude of looking outside to discover our worth creates considerable amount of hurt and guilt, which results in creating unhealthy self – image. With unhealthy self – image, I become a lone wounded solider – a Ninja. When our carefully nurtured Ninja is operating, we are constantly trying to look right and perform right, in order to get others attention, love and approval. The emotionally wounded solider feels worthy only when he receives validation from people around.   This creates pain, anger, helplessness, stress and anxiety – emotional disturbance. We feel insecure when our whole sense of worth hinges upon getting others' approval and attention. We may even feel...

People who do good things feel good about themselves! Once upon a time in ancient Dwarasamudra, there lived a beautiful princess; Priyanka. One day, her father the King Vikrama announced that he would give his daughter's hand in marriage to the noblest, kindest, most honest man in the land. Many, eager to marry a beautiful royal wife, came to woo the princess. One of these men was Maha Rana - a criminal who had heard that the princess would be choosing from among her suitors. Maha Rana knew he could not win her if she saw who he was, so he made himself a mask with the most honorable expression. He put on the mask and went to call on the princess Priyanka. When she met him, she was very taken with his impressive mask.  "I think I shall marry this one," she told her father. "For clearly, he is the noblest, kindest, most honest man among all the others." The King Vikrama announced a wedding date for one year hence. Maha Rana - the criminal w...

One day, I was walking through the walking paths of woods of the ashrama. It was a gorgeous evening; Sun was preparing to set. Suddenly, there was a big snake in front of me. I had almost stepped on, no one around and this could be painful death. I was paralyzed by fear, my body had broken into a sweat, my heart was beating to pop out.  But then, suddenly Guruji came and he dared to have a glance at the snake. Surprisingly, he claimed, “Devadutta, it is a rope. That snake is  a rope”. Now I realized I am safe and free from the fear of the snake. I can encounter this false snake for years after year. The entire Gurukula or for that matter the entire world could come upon this snake and scare themselves to death – I could remain fearlessly.  Guruji continued, “We build up our own stories, fear, pain and judgements about why it is a snake and not a rope. Our argument is to prove that the rope is a snake. We see and make others see a snake in ...

Your Values: The back bone of your society, organization, family and your life! Over the last couple of years, We, Anugraha Foundation – The foundation for living values, has been engaged in building a holistic infrastructure on the human resource front to realize a definite leadership aspiration in the global arena. Sreyas, our self – growth initiative, Madhuvarshini, family value initiative, Excellence at workplace, our organizational transformation initiative, are our salutation to the mission of “Living Values” and are milestones of this purposeful journey. And very recently, a new and significant initiative has been launched across the learning to transform horizon wherein we have more sharply associated with people in learning, clarifying, assimilating and living values. Values define characters and personality; Values guide, shape and influence our behavior, choices and actions. The external world perceives and responds to us based on the way we go about conducting ou...

You can make a difference in contributing to make your children emotionally mature!  It is important for parents and caregivers to implement certain learning factors at home. It is important to learn all about children and child development, understanding and accepting a child without being judgment may help improve our attitudes. It is important to remain connected with children; this could be through few family events and meets, going on a walk, playing games, reading a book together, having food together or engaging in any other activities as a family. Have friends who are emotional mature. Manage stress in a healthy way. Take time for yourself to re-engineer your values and attitudes. Discover your masks and the truth about you. Ensure that you are leaving your child with people that you trust will care for your child as you would. Learn how to support family and friends during difficulties and stressful times and encourage ...

We have imprisoned ourselves in jails of our own mind; likes and dislikes are the judge. We have sentenced ourselves to life imprisonment. We live the lives of fear, desperation and insecurity. It is the worst kind of punishment we are doing to our own lives. It is violence - the result of not living values. We aim to live through the better moment; in that mission we try all tricks, gimmicks and put total effort to wear masks of different colours. End of the day, we make a life of dishonest; we miss the glorious moment and every moment; slip into the past or future. In this way, we miss most of our lives. Our cumulative dishonesty have cost us and the others. Namely, those who have respect, love and care for us - living with the mask continues.... our aim to live the better moment too continues!

Convert all your “No” to “Yes” Your “No” is not necessary for your children. “No” is a word to be used in moderation, it is powerful enough to destroy self-image and bring helplessness in your children. What if you learn to turn all your “No” to “Yes”? When your child does something and you don’t like that your “No” comes quite often. The child realizes the power the word “No” carries and starts using it to assert himself. Whenever we say “No” we are reminding our child that we are the boss and the decision makes. And at the same time, it puts the child in a defensive position and therefore may try to defy us even more. “No, I can’t … and Yes, I can …” are two different expressions. “ No, I can’t help you. And Yes, I’ll help you as soon as I’m done with my work ” are different. They have the different experience on us. Our “No” can make our children prefer not to ask for help and manage on their own instead of risking rejection. They might miss out on something they a...